The Summer of Sex Toys: Let’s Talk Vibes, Not Just Heatwaves

Welcome to Gossip & ‘Gasms, the sex column where we talk about it all—the good, the bad, and the mind-blowingly orgasmic. I’m Ashley Cobb, your resident sexpert, storyteller, and homegirl who will overshare so you don’t have to. Think of this as your group chat’s spicy cousin—the one who keeps it real, spills the juiciest stories (including my own), and always drops some game along the way.

Ah, summer. The season for sun-kissed skin, beach days, and getting intimately acquainted with your sex toys in ways you didn’t think possible. Summer and sex toys go hand in hand like sunshine and sunglasses—both essential for getting the most out of your pleasure. As the days get hotter and the nights stretch on, it’s the ideal time to treat yourself to a little self-care and dive into fresh sensations, with a buzzing excitement to keep things electric. Sure, summer is all about fun, sun, and beach trips—but it’s also the perfect opportunity to heat things up behind closed doors. Forget treating your toy collection as an afterthought. This summer, pleasure takes center stage. It’s time to explore every vibrating, buzzing possibility, because pleasure is no longer optional—it’s a must.

Now, I know what some of y’all might be thinking—“I don’t need no toy, Ashley! I’m good.” But hear me out: I mean, I love me a good connection and intimacy as much as the next person, but let’s not sleep on the fact that toys can take things from 0 to 100 in the blink of an eye. We’re talking about next-level pleasure that will have you rethinking every previous “good enough” experience. Whether it’s a quiet bullet, a full-on vibrator, or a luxury toy that feels like a work of art, there’s a whole world of pleasure waiting for you to dive into.

I love a good sex toy, chile! I keep one on my nightstand within arm’s reach for whenever the mood strikes. Honestly, it’s like my own little “emergency kit” for those times when Netflix can’t keep me entertained or I’m too tired to text bae back. I remember one night, I was feeling extra lazy and didn’t want to put in the effort for a full-blown rendezvous. I glanced at my nightstand and thought, “Why not?” I reached for my trusty vibe, and let me tell you, that thing did not disappoint. In about 10 minutes, I was questioning why I’d ever hesitated to enjoy myself without a whole entourage of people. No small talk, no expectations, just me and my vibe, living our best life. It’s honestly a game-changer—quick, effective, and zero small talk. Sometimes, it’s just what a girl needs.

But let’s not stop there—let’s talk about how sex toys aren’t just for solo sessions, darling. They’re also for relationships! Now, some of y’all might be side-eyeing me like, “Ashley, what do you mean?” Listen, if you’re in a relationship, toys can do more than just spice up the routine. They can open the door to a whole new level of intimacy, connection, and, yes, pleasure. Imagine this: You and your partner are having an intimate night in. Things are heating up, but instead of the same old moves, you introduce a toy. Maybe it’s a vibrating cock ring to keep both of you humming, or a remote-controlled vibrator that allows your partner to control your pleasure from across the room—or, better yet, under the table (yes, I said it). It’s about exploring new sensations together, feeling more connected, and taking the pressure off. This isn’t about performing or trying to “measure up”—it’s about enjoying each other and every moment, in ways you hadn’t considered before. I’ve learned this the hard way (well, not that hard). Trust me, if you’re not using toys in your relationship, you’re missing out on a whole new world of possibilities.

Now, let’s talk about the toys that are taking things too far—in the best way possible. Gone are the days when vibrators were simple one-speed wonders. Oh, honey, that’s so 2010. These days, sex toys are fully embracing technology, and I’m here for it. Imagine this: You’re chilling on your couch or lounging poolside (or in my case, still inside because I like the AC), feeling frisky and not ready to call it a night yet. Enter: The app-controlled vibrator. These bad boys allow you to control the intensity, speed, and rhythm right from your phone. That’s right, I’m talking about a toy that’s like your own personal pleasure show, and you’re the director. Perfect for those long-distance relationships or solo sessions where you just want to feel like you have full control. You don’t even have to leave your bed, and you can change your vibe with the swipe of your finger.

But it gets even better, sis. There are vibrators now that change their speed and intensity based on your voice. I’m talking about a totally personalized experience where you can literally say, “Faster!” or “Slower!” and boom—the vibe adjusts. Who knew technology could make pleasure even more…well, pleasurable? The possibilities are endless, and they all sound like a good time.

And if you’re thinking, “Ashley, I’m about to travel. I can’t bring my big vibrator on the plane!”—oh, honey, I’ve got you. If you’re about to head out for a weekend getaway or even a quick road trip, you don’t have to leave your pleasure behind. Get yourself a compact, discreet, travel-sized toy. I’m talking about a mini vibe or a bullet that’s perfect for stashing away in your bag. These travel toys are powerful enough to keep you satisfied and small enough to slip into your luggage without anyone being the wiser. No one needs to know that you’re about to enjoy a little “me time” during a flight or in the privacy of your hotel room. Trust me, the best part of your trip might just be the solo session you have after a long day of sightseeing.

Vibrators are the summer accessory we never knew we needed—but now that we know, we can’t live without them. Sunglasses? Check. Sunscreen? Check. Vibrator? Oh, big check. Whether you’re lounging by the beach or chilling on your couch, a vibrator is the cherry on top of a perfect summer day. The Summer of Sex Toys isn’t just a fad; it’s a celebration of self-care, pleasure, and exploration. So, if anyone tries to tell you that toys are a no-go, look them dead in the eye and say, “Bih, Please!” This summer, let your pleasure shine as bright as the sun. Don’t wait for the perfect moment—create it. And when you do, remember, there’s always a toy waiting to make it that much sweeter.