once and for all, being in an interracial relationship doesn’t mean you hate black people

November 21, 2016

We all have been curious about dating outside of our culture and finding someone in a different ethnicity. Many of us have tried it and failed. Many of us found the one who has no similar background to our upbringing.

In 2016 it is turning into a norm that people of black culture are embracing other ethnicities and have a partner with a different background. It is the other norms that can also be a little stressful. When dating outside of your culture, you feel the animosity from your relatives about “What’s wrong with your race?”

These are questions faced on the daily for people in an interracial relationship. The negative comments that will make you question your love. It can be difficult being with someone who does not understand your traditions, hair routine, or upbringing. In a relationship like this, you have to fight every day to prove that your s/o celebrates you as a human. Even if outsiders don’t see it that way.

I believe this is the time. We should end these questions and stop sending out negative energy to those in an interracial relationship. It already has its troubling factors that the world is judgmental and our families won’t get it. But, have you ever seen the positives?

By Autumn Mae, AFROPUNK contributor

Interracial dating does not mean we do not celebrate our blackness and love for our black people any less. It means we celebrate other people who love our blackness and can accept that we will not tone down our black pride. This is vital in an interracial relationship. You should not have to feel disconnected about the current topics of Black Lives Matter, music, or culture with your partner. This gives you a chance to express that love for your people to them.

I see this as a more positive tone. You can spread your love and blackness to other people outside your race who are genuinely willing to listen.

We should celebrate and spread our blackness in our relationships, friendships, and to anyone willing to celebrate. Find that partner who is willing to have different conversations about appropriation, gentrification, racism, and more.
Think of it this way, don’t let your fear of the negative stigmas limit your love selection. If you remain true to yourself and celebrate your people every damn day, then don’t be afraid to love someone else. You can still be proud, beautiful, and black with a partner who is accepting of that.